Considering couples therapy?
Perhaps you struggle to communicate effectively with your partner?
Does it feel like you are arguing more than you used to?
Maybe you want to improve your relationship and feel closer to one another?
If you want to improve or rebuild your relationship then couples
counselling can really help.
There is a common myth that relationships should be easy
and so it’s understandable that we can feel sad, confused
and sometimes shameful when there are struggles in our
The truth is that all relationships take work and it is possible
to work through our difficulties and differences. I can help you with this.
As a couples therapist I see my role as helping you and your partner to
connect with each other and bring joy into your relationship.
How do I work with couples?
The model I use to work with couples is called the Imago therapy, created by
Harville Hendrix and Helen Hunt, Ph.D in the 1980s. The reason I love Imago is
because it helps to normalise our relationship struggles, in fact Imago theory suggests that we will all unconsciously pick a partner who will challenge us. Once we know this we can work on this with our partner in a positive and fulfilling way.
Why Imago couples therapy?
The focus of Imago is around bringing back and increasing the love and fulfillment in your relationship, this is so important and is a key aspect of the way I work with couples. We will do this by looking at increasing the positivity in your relationship. In our sessions I will guide you through sharing appreciations of each other as well as working through areas of conflict.
As a relational therapist I really believe that our relationships and experiences throughout our life shape us. We will all encounter difficulties and wounds from our past relationships. My role is to coach you as a couple to communicate in a new way that helps to heal those wounds. I am passionate about working with couples in this way because it allows you both personal growth, growing together can really strengthen and deepen your relationship.
In our sessions I will help you to create a safe space for you to connect with your partner, In Imago this is called ‘the Dialogue’. The Dialogue will involve me coaching you through a new way of talking to each other, enabling you to mirror, understand and empathise with your partner and for your partner to really hear you too.
By learning the Dialogue process you can find a new positive way to resolve conflict with your partner not only in our sessions together but going forward in your relationship.
I will bring compassion and a non-judgemental approach to working with you both and your relationship.
Who is couples therapy for?
I work with couples of any age and sexual orientation. You could either be at the beginning of your relationship, struggling with the impacts of a new life stage or trying to navigate the pain after an affair.
Together we will explore why there may be disconnection, what you need and how to get the relationship that you both really want.
If you are both committed to working on your relationship and want to find a new way to make lasting changes to your relationship then I may be the right therapist for you.
Is this way of working suitable for everyone?
My approach is not suitable for couples where there is any level of physical aggression, violence or emotional abuse. I would in this instance recommend speaking to an individual therapist and seeking advice and information from https://idas.org.uk
How long will sessions be?
The first session will be 1 hour long. In the first session you will have a chance to tell your story and let me know what you want to get out of couples therapy. I will also introduce you to ‘the Dialogue’ so that you can see if the way I work fits with you both.
Ongoing sessions will be 60 or 90 minutes long and booked on a weekly or fortnightly basis. There will be homework given in between sessions to help you build lasting changes in your relationship.
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Get in touch
If you would like to know more about the way I work or enquire about booking in an initial session email me.
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